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Tuesday, October 23, 2012

# 363 - Adapting to Different Phases in Life

I've always wanted a little red farmhouse. The windows on this little two-bedroom house are perfect sized to let the outdoor landscape be seen with clarity. Also, the attic would have a bit of room for a room conversion to allow some extra sleeping space and hang-out square footage, maybe a craft room for me.

This house is about 1157 square feet. Not too shabby. These are built by Texas Casual Cottages, Trendmaker Homes. These two get my serious attention. However, they are priced rather steep, even for being built on your own land.


The next house is larger, but I don't really care for their floor plans. I'd rather have a plan that is more old-fashioned.

We are so exhausted since coming back from the wedding. Our first weekend since the wedding was spent with our niece, Shaye, spending the weekend with us. My next post is about those fun days. There's nothing like having a six-year old perspective to keep you in line!

Also, to get us one step closer to being able to move...Deputy Dave went through agony to pull a ton of boxes out of the attic so I could take inventory of these boxes that I previously packed...a few are destined for a garage sale and others are full of craft supplies, holiday decorations, others are jam-packed with the girls' childhood keepsakes and will be kept for a while, especially because grand-children will probably be in our future. I know that box of old Barbies will be a joy to have --- that's one purchase we'll never have to make again for our entire lives, even if we have ten grand-daughters, we have plenty of Barbies to go around!

One thing is for certain, gaining a son-in-law has provoked a marked change in both of us. It's as if our heads have been yanked upward to see the sparkling stars as obscuring clouds move aside.

A family is something that is not easy to build. I've seen how easy it is to tear it apart. The bottom line is...you never have as much apart as you had together, in every sense. I have learned that walking away from problems is the easy part. Keeping the family together is the hard part.

At my daughter's wedding, I had someone ask me how I'd managed to stay married for 26 years and I said, "I think adapting to the different phases throughout marriage is critical."


Those who have been married near 30 years usually have some sort of marital scars to prove they've suffered through the worst of times and they also have beautiful evidence to prove it's worth it to heal any wounds that can be made better after a time of ugliness.


Even at our age, our grown children depend on us to be together for holidays. They want to call one of us, yet have access to both of us. One day, the kids want to call us when that grandbaby is on the way and have us both leave town together and arrive with beaming faces in unison.


I hope my daughter and her new son-in-law will always remember to be tender and kind to one another. Without those ingredients, they are likely to end up like any other Joe Blow to each other. Remain unique to each other, able to connect to each other's souls. That kind of bond is very difficult to break, even after the worst of times. But, for people who have been married near 30 years, we can assure them that trying times will fall upon them and it's up to those two people to get through it. They won't be the same kids who said, "I do," because Father-Time will have a hold upon them and the clock cannot go backward, but you must adapt and learn to love each other, even as you are falling apart.


Sometimes you feel as if a raging fire has moved through your relationship and burned everything to a crisp, then, just as you feel all hope is nothing more but a heap of smoldering nothingness, a new sprout of encouragement peeks upward and begins to grow strong. Newness and regrowth can be sought in the ruins of old ashes.


Relationships are tricky, the best thing to do is to do your best, remember your portion of the commitment.


Like so many families discover after their kids grow up, it's not so easy to be a "family" because the "family" is diminished somewhat. Then, your kids get married and it hits you across the head...dummy...the family is not diminished at all, in fact, it's growing and will be busier than ever, very soon.


In front of us lays the unknown...so many decisions to be made that will be scary and without a guarantee. However, moving to the country is an action that offers many more reliefs than stresses. All we can do is keep moving forward, have faith, not be complacent, keep communicated, and be willing to go the extra mile to adapt to this new phase in our lives.

I am ready. I think I was ready yesterday!

Monday, May 21, 2012

# 268 - Reality Writing - Back to the Plan!

Writing a blog affords you to enjoy many benefits. One of the best parts of blogging is that each entry is sort of like a journal entry...with photos. I think of my blog as electronic journaling or technical scrapbooking. No, I don't scrapbook in real life; I'm the kind of person who uses the old-fashioned black corners on the scrapbook page to hold in the photo and I write next to it. No fancy paper, no big effort, but I do LOVE to look at other people's scrapbooks. Blogging is sort of like piecing together your favorite or notable subjects.

I think of blogging as "Reality Writing" and "Reality Reading" at its finest. We no longer have to be stuck behind that book or magazine about people moving to the country because we can BLOG about it, read about it, and even participate in back-and-forth comments about it.

For me, I love it when I have huge "A-ha" moments after reading a blog buddy's comments, such as what happened to me with yesterday's blog (#268). Your blog buddies can sometimes serve as a committee, helping you to stay on track. Sometimes, I read comments and have to sit back while shaking my head at my own tendency to veer off the planned path because of current stresses. The comments helped me to think more deeply about reasons for our order of construction. The comments definitely confirmed that I needed to slow down and not feel closed in or in a rush to build structures out of order. Doing things out of order would probably bring a lot of misery.

This past week, I had been overwhelmed by the process of selling our house for several reasons, my attitude and fortitude began to waver because...

1. The phase of life we've hit with having grown children who are "grown" but not quite ready to take all of their belongings is very difficult when it comes to packing. It's a packing nightmare. It's a time in life when you feel as if you are packing things that really won't have their own place or their own "room" in the next house. In the country cabin, we will have a house that will have guest rooms instead of rooms specifically for raising children. Weird, but welcomed! We've earned this stage of life, but it makes packing more of a challenge. Well, our youngest offspring will still have a room...until she's finished with college and on her way in life with more permanent residency, other than college-revolved living. The oldest child is in a permanent, long-term housing situation since she's living with her fiance...this means that she will have to start taking her own belongings to sort through as she pleases. I'll let her make the tough choices about which school memorabilia to keep or toss. However, all of those things we've held onto since the kids were growing up might not necessarily need to be held onto for eternity!

2. Animals are a bigger part of our life since we've lived in this house. I've never lived with chickens AND dogs while having to market a house. It's a non-fun juggling act. On the same level, we would've never known we were so eager to live in the country PRIOR to actual retirement if we'd not plunged ahead with getting our chickens while living in the city. We LOVE our chickens!

3. I do not have the energy to keep the house in show-stopping condition day by day. I was around 37 years old when we sold our last home and there's a big difference in how I feel from 37 to 44 years of age. The staircase also slows me down. The size of this house makes it very difficult to maintain; hence a BIG REASON for wanting to sell it. The house is simply too big for me to keep up with on my own. I'd rather spend extra time on a lawn tractor than behind a vacuum cleaner.



Those are part of my reasons for struggling more with this particular move than our past moves from house to house. Like many people, I have health issues that get in my way. Even so, I keep plugging along!

My last blog post had many great comments that helped me to remember "the plan" we have had in place this past year...such as building the workshop/barn first, then build the house. My blog buddies helped to to recall that I need to remember the ORIGINAL plan instead of feeling trapped and panicked about needing to get out of the city house. The process of getting out to our land will be a difficult process, we're doing all we can to make it happen, but I need to remember to not rush it.

I feel as if I can see the finish line and am getting tunnel vision!

As for building a barn/workshop, I have been seriously considering sticking with wood construction. Perhaps we can do steel beam supports, but I love the look of a wood barn. We currently live in a VERY heavily industrialized area and are surrounded by metal buildings, so I don't think I'll be very happy with a metal building on our land. We do have a metal storage building out there now, but I don't think I can deal with building more of them, especially when I'm trying to get away from all of these metal buildings. It works for some people, but not for me --- too much metal will remind me of the industrialized area we're trying to leave behind.



If we build a barn/workshop first, as planned, I believe we'll go ahead and build something similar to an efficiency apartment within the structure itself instead of purchasing another RV, especially since we already have the refrigerator and such. Setting up a little kitchenette area won't be difficult, putting in a window unit won't be too challenging and installing a basic bathroom setup is no problem, especially since Deputy Dave will probably use all of these areas as a big bonus to his workshop. When the guys come out to the property...and we do have a LOT of guys in our family...I'm sure they will thoroughly enjoy all of these conveniences in the workshop area. We've considered the RV angle over and over...we had an RV on our property for years, but it is something that comes with its own maintenance issues. In the end, I believe it will be nice to not worry about storing an RV, keeping insurance on another vehicle and not having to sell it. Bottom line, I'd rather put every dollar toward a solid structure that we will need for the long-term plan.

I appreciate all of you for helping me to get back on track. The stress of selling sometimes makes you want to go in circles and to forget the path of your well-thought out plans that have been in place. As you get closer to the reality of moving, there's a sense of urgency that increases. I've got to keep my head on my shoulders!

Thanks to my blog buddies for helping me stay on track! In fact, if you have any barn structure ideas or pictures, PLEASE SEND THEM TO ME!! I don't know how to link up a photo, but if you know how, feel free to do so! Also, if you email the photos to me (FarmLifeLessons@gmail.com) --
please give me written permission in the email to post the photos on my blog.

We are looking for a barn/workshop with an exterior overhang, such as in the photo above. Of course, we can work that into many construction plans.

Barn tips of all kinds are welcome, such as pros and cons of one type of barn over another. I love Pole Barns, but wonder if I am limiting myself? I have no idea. I'm listening to every word you type!! We're the thick in this midst of this transition with all the madness it entails. However, I'm back on track; back to the original plan...

Thank you!

Thursday, August 4, 2011

#69 - COMMENT CABINET - Eggs and More


I find comments of blog buddies to be valuable. Since I am wrapped up in normal daily blogging, I often hope others are reading the comments as well because great information is given, along with some fun bantering.
 
 
Below are five comments that began to deeply change my way of looking at the way chicken eggs are packaged and stored, especially Linda's info about the Julian date. Then, there are more comments with interesting tidbits of information.
 
   
I decided to post the comments in the order they arrived on my "Weird Egg Information" (entry #61). Later, I might write about how I felt after sifting through this information and try to put it into my own words to suit my weird way of understanding things after further research, but for now, here are important details from Farm Life Lesson's Comment Cabinet...


LindaG said...


I belong to a couple of chicken groups and the question of storage came up a little bit ago. There were people that said they'd kept their eggs for 4 week on the counter, a little longer in the fridge. What is bad is to cool the eggs and then take them out, as you noticed.

Remember before refrigeration, eggs were collected and kept in a bowl on the table. Also, many of them don't wash eggs until just before use, unless really dirty.

Ever since the egg thing at the 'factory farms', one thing I've educated myself on is how to read the egg cartons. ( http://fooddemocracy.wordpress.com/2008/03/03/who-knew-cracking-the-egg-carton-code/) The date they were 'packaged' is a julian date. I don't pay any attention to the sell by date any more. If I can't read a julian date, they are automatically out. If I can read the julian date, then I pick the one with the date closest to the actual julian date. (I have an app on my phone that tells me, because my memory fails, haha!) Sometimes I'll shop a couple of different stores to find the freshest eggs possible, because yes, the odds are they are still quite old. I can tell when I cook them.

Another thing I have seen on the groups is that yolk color is dependent upon what the chickens eat. And your yolks should actually be much darker than the pale store-bought eggs. Probably closer to orange since your chickens forage in the back yard.

Lucky you! I am so happy for you all, Lana. Look forward to hearing about your first meal with your eggs. :)
 

Mike said...

Thanks for the mention, Lana. Since I've run across your blog, I too, have taken up researching chickens.

Something else I found out about egg size is some chickens lay small, some medium, etc., It all depends on the breed as to what size they lay. We'll just learn together as your chickens develop and mature how big yours are going to be.

One day soon, I'll probably break down and get some chickens, too. I'm looking more into silkies for selling other than layers. But, I do like the looks of a golden laced wyandotte. So, who knows what I'll end up with. Knowing me, both, I'm sure.

As for eggs at Walmart, unfortunately I've work for them both as an associate and now as a vendor. Their coolers temps fluctuate quite a bit and I wouldn't be surprised if they haven't sweated a time or two before they're sold. Not to mention how long a stocker will allow them to sit outside the coolers before placing them in the floor coolers. I have a favor to ask. I like the idea of a chicken tractor and wonder if you'd take a couple pics of the inside of yours. I've looked and can't seem to find any pics allowing me to get a good view. Particularly, the bottom. Also, does the run have wire on the bottom or is it open to the ground? I've seen em both ways and am just curious.

This comment is more like a post. I'll not post anything on my blog yet. I still have to sell Susan on the idea. She caught me looking at pics and joined in. So, I think she's on board. ;)



Charade said...

I'm with LindaG on this one. My grandmother, great aunts and the old ranch woman who taught me how to bake bread (ooh, too bad those lessons didn't stick) all kept their eggs hanging in those wire baskets, unrefrigerated, and nobody ever got sick from them. Of course that was before the days of humongous factory farms laden with antibiotic-treated feed, thinner shells and runnier albumin. Who knows now what the answer should be.




Rae said...

Huh. The yolks in our eggs are orange, as opposed to the bright yellow of store eggs. As for "freshness", here's what my friend told me about her chickens. She said that a hard boiled egg that is easy to peel is old. As eggs age, moisture evaporates through the shell, causing there to be more air IN the shell, thus the easy peel. You can test how old an egg is by how it floats... Older eggs will float to the top. (ex from online search, fresh sink, 1-wk tilt up, couple weeks sit sorta vertical, several weeks+ float). She said that in order to have anywhere near an easy-peel egg from her chickens, they had to be at least a couple weeks old. So... Every easy-peel egg from the store when you're making deviled eggs... How gross is that?


Mike said...


I read this post earlier and Linda's comment about the julian date intrigued me. I just looked at my latest purchased eggs and it appears the julian date is 134, 14 May. The sell by is: 11 Jun. Today is: 1 Aug. I know I don't use eggs too often but, these suckers have been out and a bout for 2 1/2 months? I should hard boil em so I won't have any trouble peeling them and then throw them in the trash ;)